One of the more recent lesson's I've learned when dealing with people and their behavior is, it's more about me than it is the other person. There is a lesson in every encounter we face. Inspired by a recent blog post I published entitled, stop trying to change others.
As I was having a conversation with a friend it suddenly dawned on me that I wasn't going to change the situation or the person. And this was here to there to teach me about myself and prepare me for the future. I had to accept this person for who they were showing me they really are. Which has given me a great sense of peace, sometimes we want people to be kind when they're not. Honest, when they're filled with lies. When we are frustrated because things or people aren't conforming to what we want, remind yourself the only person this is affecting is you. More than likely the other person doesn't care. Instead take that emotional energy use it to reflect over what's happening. And quickly grasp hold of what it's there to reveal to us about us is a more productive way to invest in ourselves. We haven't truly mastered something or someone until it no longer tugs at us internally. You know that knot in the chest or stomach that pops up when a certain person is around or their actions that drives up the annoyance meter. Once we've gained the knowledge this person or circumstance has come to reflect what it is we need to change or improve upon the knot will disappear. It's not about them, it's about me. We are unstuck and we are free.
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